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Hello,
I am a new member. I was involved with an EMR as the other woman for 1 year. He swore he was in love with me and that I was the woman he wanted to be with. He told me they were done and there was zero chance of reconciliation. I waited, and waited. Recently, he let me know that he can’t leave his marriage without trying to reconcile with his wife. I’m devastated. I feel used and betrayed.
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Welcome, brokenhearted.
I'm very sorry you're dealing with this. It's not unusual for MM to decide to stay in their marriage even after claiming it is over. My MM has said for the past 14 years his marriage has been over, but yet he's still married.
You've come to the right place for support.
It is both a blessing and a curse to feel everything so deeply.
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Did he end the relationship with you, or just changed his mind on leaving his marriage?
Always love yourself more. 
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Hi and
My guy tried to leave but couldn’t do it. He stayed M for familial love but kept me for romantic and passionate love which has lasted nearly two decades for us.
Can you be happy in the EMR?
No regrets
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(07-27-2023, 11:24 AM)Brokenhearted Wrote: Hello,
I am a new member. I was involved with an EMR as the other woman for 1 year. He swore he was in love with me and that I was the woman he wanted to be with. He told me they were done and there was zero chance of reconciliation. I waited, and waited. Recently, he let me know that he can’t leave his marriage without trying to reconcile with his wife. I’m devastated. I feel used and betrayed.
I'm sorry . That must be so painful. Have you let him know how you feel about this?
