Hello

[Sarah]

I'm glad you had a good night!!! Is he single , married or whatever either do you know? Not that kt matters it its only a one night thing just curious


I wouldn't rule out long disfance plenty of people do it.

I just don’t see how I would manage something long distance. If it got emotional then that would really complicate things. If we kept it just about sex then we would barely see each other so would there be any point?
 
I just want to keep it simple and not over think things. Ideally, make the most of this while its happening but when its over I just want to go home and think of this a fluke.
 
No he’s not married. He did tell me he is not seeing anyone but Im not sure.

[Becky123]

I just don’t see how I would manage something long distance. If it got emotional then that would really complicate things. If we kept it just about sex then we would barely see each other so would there be any point?
 
I just want to keep it simple and not over think things. Ideally, make the most of this while its happening but when its over I just want to go home and think of this a fluke.
 
No he’s not married. He did tell me he is not seeing anyone but Im not sure.

Why are you not sure?
 
If you want to keep it simple I can understand that but don’t dismiss the possibility of something long distance. You may not get to have sex as often but just being in contact can be very powerful. My OM is relatively close but I still get a boost when I receive a message from him or when we talk on the phone.
 
Do you think you will still be satisfied with your fiancé now? You said the sex with John was good so how do you think your fiancé will compare now? Im only asking out of curiosity. No need to answer if it makes you uncomfortable.

[Sarah]

Why are you not sure?
 
If you want to keep it simple I can understand that but don’t dismiss the possibility of something long distance. You may not get to have sex as often but just being in contact can be very powerful. My OM is relatively close but I still get a boost when I receive a message from him or when we talk on the phone.
 
Do you think you will still be satisfied with your fiancé now? You said the sex with John was good so how do you think your fiancé will compare now? Im only asking out of curiosity. No need to answer if it makes you uncomfortable.

I just have my doubts. Not that it really matters.
 
John and my fiancé are very different. I won’t lie. I have enjoyed the change.
A part of me is going to miss John when I go home in a few days.

[Sandrine]

I just have my doubts. Not that it really matters.
 
John and my fiancé are very different. I won’t lie. I have enjoyed the change.
A part of me is going to miss John when I go home in a few days.

Update us, are you having mixed feelings about your fiancé now? How is it going?

[Sarah]

Update us, are you having mixed feelings about your fiancé now? How is it going?

Hi,
I’m sorry for not replying sooner. I arrived back home a few days ago and things have been complicated. I suppose you could say that reality has set back in.
 
While I was with John it was a whirlwind. The excitement of having something I had always imagined and yes, the sex was incredible. I did feel guilty whenever I had to talk to my fiancé but when I was with John that just seemed to take a back seat. When I left after the last time we were together I was really sad that it was over and I was thinking about maybe trying for something more long term.
 
When I arrived home and saw my fiancé it was like a gut punch. I felt so ashamed. This whole thing was so out of character for me. 

Ive been doing the best I can to distract myself and not think about it. When I do think about it then its just a lot of mood swings. When I think about my fiancé I want to cry and when I think about John I want to reach for my phone. I miss John like crazy but I really do love my fiancé so much. I don’t want to lose him.
 
I think its going to take me a while to sort this out in my mind.

[Becky123]

Hi,
I’m sorry for not replying sooner. I arrived back home a few days ago and things have been complicated. I suppose you could say that reality has set back in.
 
While I was with John it was a whirlwind. The excitement of having something I had always imagined and yes, the sex was incredible. I did feel guilty whenever I had to talk to my fiancé but when I was with John that just seemed to take a back seat. When I left after the last time we were together I was really sad that it was over and I was thinking about maybe trying for something more long term.
 
When I arrived home and saw my fiancé it was like a gut punch. I felt so ashamed. This whole thing was so out of character for me. 

Ive been doing the best I can to distract myself and not think about it. When I do think about it then its just a lot of mood swings. When I think about my fiancé I want to cry and when I think about John I want to reach for my phone. I miss John like crazy but I really do love my fiancé so much. I don’t want to lose him.
 
I think its going to take me a while to sort this out in my mind.

Do you regret what happened with John now?     Did you discuss the possibility of 'something more long term' with him before you left?
How are things with your fiancé now?

[Sarah]

Do you regret what happened with John now?     Did you discuss the possibility of 'something more long term' with him before you left?
How are things with your fiancé now?

No. I don’t regret it. I just wish it had happened under different circumstance.
 
We didn’t discuss seeing each other again. I told him I was involved with someone so he knows it was just a fling. There have been a few messages back and forth since, but I don’t think anything will happen. I’m choosing to think of it as a good memory from another life.
 
Things with my fiancé have returned to normal. He did notice I was acting strange for the first few days but I told him I was just tired from all the traveling. I think he accepted that.