2 years in with my manager,still no idea where we stand.

[Harlow]

Sorry, double post.

[Pinkish]

This^^^^^ 
He's got you twisted up so much you question your own instincts. And feel guilty for him. 

The longer you stay the more you will start to believe it. You will hear his voice telling you what to do instead of your own.

He really has, I would feel bad for leaving him. Or feel like am not trying enough. Or like am trying too much. And I would pick myself apart trying to see what it is that would make him treat me as such. What did I say or what did I do. Its been mentally draining. Trying to see what was wrong with me, what I could do to. I can change. It's been a lot!!

[Mrs T]

He really has, I would feel bad for leaving him. Or feel like am not trying enough. Or like am trying too much. And I would pick myself apart trying to see what it is that would make him treat me as such. What did I say or what did I do. Its been mentally draining. Trying to see what was wrong with me, what I could do to. I can change. It's been a lot!!

There is absolutely nothing wrong with you.  He is a user.  He has made you think you are not enough.  

You don't owe him a moment of your time.

Get yourself out of there ASAP.  It is damaging you.

O

[Mypetsprincess]

There is absolutely nothing wrong with you.  He is a user.  He has made you think you are not enough.  

You don't owe him a moment of your time.

Get yourself out of there ASAP.  It is damaging you.

O

100% this. This is not a nice man. If you wouldn't accept this kind of behavior from a single man, why would you ever accept it from a married man? Cutting him off will be hard and it will hurt, but not as much as staying involved with him will.

[Pinkish]

100% this. This is not a nice man. If you wouldn't accept this kind of behavior from a single man, why would you ever accept it from a married man? Cutting him off will be hard and it will hurt, but not as much as staying involved with him will.

I see that now. Its not about the emr it's the person. I would never accept it from a single man for sure. And I should treat this as such. He's toxic and manipulative.

[Mrs T]

I see that now. Its not about the emr it's the person. I would never accept it from a single man for sure. And I should treat this as such. He's toxic and manipulative.

Pink,
Is there any way you can leave that workplace and start somewhere new where there are no complications?

O

[Mypetsprincess]

I see that now. Its not about the emr it's the person. I would never accept it from a single man for sure. And I should treat this as such. He's toxic and manipulative.

I'm so sorry. Truly. My user name reflects my experience. I truly was his princess. If I was going to risk my marriage, my life, why would I expect anything less?

[Pinkish]

Pink,
Is there any way you can leave that workplace and start somewhere new where there are no complications?

O

I have been working on that, but I've not been successful. But next year I am planning on moving in with my sister, she lives in a different country.