https://www.truesupport.org/forum/ Mon, 31 Aug 2026 15:18:21 +0000 MyBB https://www.truesupport.org/forum/showthread.php?tid=22071 Mon, 31 Aug 2026 15:12:50 +0000 Jaye]]> https://www.truesupport.org/forum/showthread.php?tid=22071 https://www.truesupport.org/forum/showthread.php?tid=22069 Thu, 27 Aug 2026 08:47:45 +0000 salisy]]> https://www.truesupport.org/forum/showthread.php?tid=22069 ]]> ]]> https://www.truesupport.org/forum/showthread.php?tid=22068 Wed, 26 Aug 2026 14:59:45 +0000 ottershaw]]> https://www.truesupport.org/forum/showthread.php?tid=22068
Im involved with a MM who I've known for a couple of years just to chat to.   We met online (not a dating site) and have chatted on and off just in the open forum, then about 6 months ago, started messaging in DM but still chatted on the forum too.  We finally met about 3 months ago and have just hit it off.   I wasnt looking for a relationship, it was just a laugh.   We have met up a few times since either just for coffee but twice met up over a weekend when away with others from the club we both belong to.   We have been intimate.   I see him when time allows.   He understands me and always has time for me which is great.     My issue atm is that he is going on holiday with his OH and its really got to me.  I met with him today for a coffee and said how I felt but I felt bad that I was basically being needy and jealous.   I dont want him to think bad of me, but Im glad I told him how I felt.   He didnt really know what to say, he got emotional saying he cares about how I feel.

How do you guys cope with this,  this is all new to me.  Thank you]]>
Im involved with a MM who I've known for a couple of years just to chat to.   We met online (not a dating site) and have chatted on and off just in the open forum, then about 6 months ago, started messaging in DM but still chatted on the forum too.  We finally met about 3 months ago and have just hit it off.   I wasnt looking for a relationship, it was just a laugh.   We have met up a few times since either just for coffee but twice met up over a weekend when away with others from the club we both belong to.   We have been intimate.   I see him when time allows.   He understands me and always has time for me which is great.     My issue atm is that he is going on holiday with his OH and its really got to me.  I met with him today for a coffee and said how I felt but I felt bad that I was basically being needy and jealous.   I dont want him to think bad of me, but Im glad I told him how I felt.   He didnt really know what to say, he got emotional saying he cares about how I feel.

How do you guys cope with this,  this is all new to me.  Thank you]]> https://www.truesupport.org/forum/showthread.php?tid=22067 Wed, 26 Aug 2026 09:43:49 +0000 Scorpio06]]> https://www.truesupport.org/forum/showthread.php?tid=22067 https://www.truesupport.org/forum/showthread.php?tid=22065 Mon, 24 Aug 2026 04:38:19 +0000 Dontrush]]> https://www.truesupport.org/forum/showthread.php?tid=22065
Mm and I meant 15 years ago when he was separated from his wife. He assured me at the time that they were getting a divorce. Of course that never happened.

We have each tried to distance ourselves in the past, but just can’t seem to make it happen.

We have traveled together for years. And only over the last 2 to 3 years have we not been able to travel as much. We are long distance anyway and have been since the start. We live a little over two hours away from each other. Living in different states, we do not run in any of the same circles.

Hopefully this is the kind of introduction I was supposed to do if I’m supposed to get more information please let me know. If I was supposed to give less information, let me know that as well.]]>
Mm and I meant 15 years ago when he was separated from his wife. He assured me at the time that they were getting a divorce. Of course that never happened.

We have each tried to distance ourselves in the past, but just can’t seem to make it happen.

We have traveled together for years. And only over the last 2 to 3 years have we not been able to travel as much. We are long distance anyway and have been since the start. We live a little over two hours away from each other. Living in different states, we do not run in any of the same circles.

Hopefully this is the kind of introduction I was supposed to do if I’m supposed to get more information please let me know. If I was supposed to give less information, let me know that as well.]]> https://www.truesupport.org/forum/showthread.php?tid=22063 Thu, 13 Aug 2026 02:18:37 +0000 greengirl]]> https://www.truesupport.org/forum/showthread.php?tid=22063
Never done this on a forum before. Trying to sort out where I am now emotionally and where I need to go from here. I've been involved with a MM 9 years now. Longest relationship I've ever had. I've struggled with this for a long time. His wife knows me, it's I guess what a lot of ppl would call an "open relationship" or parallel relationship; his with his wife and with me. But it is not something I want long term. He knows this, he's heard it a million times from me. But I don't see it changing. I don't feel he's going to change anything in his life; he's fine w/ the status quo. 

This isn't their first rodeo with this; they have had other trysts with a 3rd person (woman) before but not long term like this. In some poly relationships I believe we'd be referred to as a V.

What hurts is how I've told him for years how I can't keep going on this way. "If you can't change it, you either deal with it or leave it" is what I usually hear and read. I'm also seeing a therapist. Just wondering if anyone else has had this experience.]]>
Never done this on a forum before. Trying to sort out where I am now emotionally and where I need to go from here. I've been involved with a MM 9 years now. Longest relationship I've ever had. I've struggled with this for a long time. His wife knows me, it's I guess what a lot of ppl would call an "open relationship" or parallel relationship; his with his wife and with me. But it is not something I want long term. He knows this, he's heard it a million times from me. But I don't see it changing. I don't feel he's going to change anything in his life; he's fine w/ the status quo. 

This isn't their first rodeo with this; they have had other trysts with a 3rd person (woman) before but not long term like this. In some poly relationships I believe we'd be referred to as a V.

What hurts is how I've told him for years how I can't keep going on this way. "If you can't change it, you either deal with it or leave it" is what I usually hear and read. I'm also seeing a therapist. Just wondering if anyone else has had this experience.]]> https://www.truesupport.org/forum/showthread.php?tid=22060 Fri, 07 Aug 2026 17:34:21 +0000 Suncharell]]> https://www.truesupport.org/forum/showthread.php?tid=22060 Lately I’m dealing with a slow fade and low effort, breadcrumbs. It’s gotten to the point where I feel like I’m just a booty call. He’s done the slow fade in the past and he’s come around when I’ve addressed my concerns with him
this last time I didn’t hear from them for a few weeks so I texted him to make sure that he was OK and he texted back and apologized and said he was very busy with work and some projects, but didn’t mention anything about getting in touch with me.
I’m really struggling with wanting his validation and resisting the urge to reel him back in like I usually do.
I just don’t want these breadcrumbs anymore, and I’m not sure if I’ve strong enough to cut the cord
I joined this form to break the isolation and connect with others who share this specific kind of grief.]]> Lately I’m dealing with a slow fade and low effort, breadcrumbs. It’s gotten to the point where I feel like I’m just a booty call. He’s done the slow fade in the past and he’s come around when I’ve addressed my concerns with him
this last time I didn’t hear from them for a few weeks so I texted him to make sure that he was OK and he texted back and apologized and said he was very busy with work and some projects, but didn’t mention anything about getting in touch with me.
I’m really struggling with wanting his validation and resisting the urge to reel him back in like I usually do.
I just don’t want these breadcrumbs anymore, and I’m not sure if I’ve strong enough to cut the cord
I joined this form to break the isolation and connect with others who share this specific kind of grief.]]> https://www.truesupport.org/forum/showthread.php?tid=22028 Wed, 08 Jul 2026 15:03:48 +0000 Chelsey]]> https://www.truesupport.org/forum/showthread.php?tid=22028 https://www.truesupport.org/forum/showthread.php?tid=22026 Sat, 20 Jun 2026 13:52:41 +0000 Sandy Beach]]> https://www.truesupport.org/forum/showthread.php?tid=22026 https://www.truesupport.org/forum/showthread.php?tid=22016 Sat, 06 Jun 2026 15:03:00 +0000 LoverGirly]]> https://www.truesupport.org/forum/showthread.php?tid=22016
He told her last year that he wants to leave but she refuses to agree to doing so amicably, and he's worried about what impact a non-amicable separation would do to his kids.  We haven't had sex as that is the one boundary we committed to upholding.  I have also convinced him to go through marriage counselling with his wife to see if there is any hope of them fixing their relationship.  They're currently going through this process and we'll see what happens.  We've put a 3-month time limit on this and we'll see where we're at after this.

I never thought I'd find myself in this situation, in a million years.  I only have a couple of very close girlfriends that I can talk to, and they are trying to be supportive but they don't love any of this - and I don't blame them at all.]]>
He told her last year that he wants to leave but she refuses to agree to doing so amicably, and he's worried about what impact a non-amicable separation would do to his kids.  We haven't had sex as that is the one boundary we committed to upholding.  I have also convinced him to go through marriage counselling with his wife to see if there is any hope of them fixing their relationship.  They're currently going through this process and we'll see what happens.  We've put a 3-month time limit on this and we'll see where we're at after this.

I never thought I'd find myself in this situation, in a million years.  I only have a couple of very close girlfriends that I can talk to, and they are trying to be supportive but they don't love any of this - and I don't blame them at all.]]> https://www.truesupport.org/forum/showthread.php?tid=22011 Thu, 14 May 2026 00:58:38 +0000 ros.e.pur.]]> https://www.truesupport.org/forum/showthread.php?tid=22011 https://www.truesupport.org/forum/showthread.php?tid=22000 Wed, 01 Apr 2026 21:29:44 +0000 Clodiapulchra]]> https://www.truesupport.org/forum/showthread.php?tid=22000 https://www.truesupport.org/forum/showthread.php?tid=21998 Mon, 16 Mar 2026 15:15:04 +0000 2445Boston]]> https://www.truesupport.org/forum/showthread.php?tid=21998 Just sad to think that I might lose him after all this . Anyway this is hard for me to open up . I can tell more of my story later]]> Just sad to think that I might lose him after all this . Anyway this is hard for me to open up . I can tell more of my story later]]> https://www.truesupport.org/forum/showthread.php?tid=21992 Sat, 07 Feb 2026 09:47:20 +0000 girlnextdoor.]]> https://www.truesupport.org/forum/showthread.php?tid=21992
I'm having an affair with someone from my work. It was absolutely not planned, we just fell in love with each other. He has a family as well. Although I think the feelings from his side are true, somtimes I am just stuck between my feelings and my head. I hope to find supportive people here and a place where I can speak freely.]]>
I'm having an affair with someone from my work. It was absolutely not planned, we just fell in love with each other. He has a family as well. Although I think the feelings from his side are true, somtimes I am just stuck between my feelings and my head. I hope to find supportive people here and a place where I can speak freely.]]> https://www.truesupport.org/forum/showthread.php?tid=21989 Fri, 02 Jan 2026 11:14:16 +0000 Aquarius5137]]> https://www.truesupport.org/forum/showthread.php?tid=21989