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We want to avoid this happening to True Support. We want it to be a place where you can figure out your own path in your own time and without any preconceived expectations or judgments.

The Mod Team does its best to ensure the kind of terminology used on other sites to diminish married persons and extramarital relationships does not take hold on True Support. The word filter function is one asset we have to help us with this. If a word has been partially replaced by asterisks, this is the word filter in action. It's part of the on-going effort to keep True Support as the kind of forum we want.

We ALL need to be vigilant in maintaining this atmosphere and in respecting our fellow members, in following the Community Guidelines, if we want True Support to remain a kind and supportive place.]]>
We want to avoid this happening to True Support. We want it to be a place where you can figure out your own path in your own time and without any preconceived expectations or judgments.

The Mod Team does its best to ensure the kind of terminology used on other sites to diminish married persons and extramarital relationships does not take hold on True Support. The word filter function is one asset we have to help us with this. If a word has been partially replaced by asterisks, this is the word filter in action. It's part of the on-going effort to keep True Support as the kind of forum we want.

We ALL need to be vigilant in maintaining this atmosphere and in respecting our fellow members, in following the Community Guidelines, if we want True Support to remain a kind and supportive place.]]> https://www.truesupport.org/forum/showthread.php?tid=11159 Wed, 12 Oct 2016 19:00:22 +0000 Mod Team]]> https://www.truesupport.org/forum/showthread.php?tid=11159
* True Support is a support group for all participants in an extramarital relationship, be it the other man/woman, the married man/woman, or the married other man/woman. The only requirement for membership is being or having been in an extramarital relationship.

* Discrimination on the grounds of race, sexuality or religion will not be tolerated.

* We strive to be a sounding board, a support system, for our members. We share our experiences and our opinions - but in the end it is up to each individual to decide what is best for them, whatever that may be. Continuing or ending either the marriage or the EMR is their decision to make. Thus, we do not try to push them in one direction or the other with regard to any decisions they are making. We will support each other regardless of decisions made.

* True Support does not espouse any specific or doctrinal view on extramarital relationships or the people involved in them. We do not hand out labels or terminology with which to diagnose each other or our loved ones, nor do we tell others how to handle their lives. While we may discuss what is right for us, we do not presume it is right for others.

* True Support does not acknowledge any authorities concerning EMRs or relationships in general, be it individual members, professionals, authors or society. No member's input is less or more important, significant or valid than another's and thus should not be held as such.

* We do not indulge in bashing of the betrayed spouse, nor of the married person/other person, nor of men/women in general. At times we may have a need to vent, but, if so, we do this without the use of degrading language or nicknames and in the area designated for it, the threads OP Rant and Rave and Scream with me and MP Rant and Rave and Scream with me.

* If a poster wishes to recommend and/or discuss literature and other media, the place for this is the sub forum Media Resources. Quoting material from other sites or publications must be done in accordance with the US Copyright Act which describes fair use of copyrighted work. The source of a quote must be clearly stated and if the source is to be found on the internet a link must be provided. No quotes may exceed a maximum of 250 words. Posters may not link to or quote material from a commercial site, ie a site which stands to benefit either directly or indirectly from traffic directed to them from True Support.

* We offer emotional support only. Financial and other material support is prohibited.

* No talk of suicide is allowed in the forum. If you or someone close to you is currently in crisis or in an emergency situation, contact your local emergency number or a counselor nearby.

* The moderators make judgment calls and these are based on the tone and/or the content of a post. If you are unclear about why a particular post has been edited or deleted, you are free to address the moderation decision in a thread to the Mod. Team in the section Private Inquiries, but not openly on the forum.

* Registering for more than one user account is not allowed without explicit permission from the Mod Team. Please contact the Mod Team if you for any reason need to change user account or user name.]]>
* True Support is a support group for all participants in an extramarital relationship, be it the other man/woman, the married man/woman, or the married other man/woman. The only requirement for membership is being or having been in an extramarital relationship.

* Discrimination on the grounds of race, sexuality or religion will not be tolerated.

* We strive to be a sounding board, a support system, for our members. We share our experiences and our opinions - but in the end it is up to each individual to decide what is best for them, whatever that may be. Continuing or ending either the marriage or the EMR is their decision to make. Thus, we do not try to push them in one direction or the other with regard to any decisions they are making. We will support each other regardless of decisions made.

* True Support does not espouse any specific or doctrinal view on extramarital relationships or the people involved in them. We do not hand out labels or terminology with which to diagnose each other or our loved ones, nor do we tell others how to handle their lives. While we may discuss what is right for us, we do not presume it is right for others.

* True Support does not acknowledge any authorities concerning EMRs or relationships in general, be it individual members, professionals, authors or society. No member's input is less or more important, significant or valid than another's and thus should not be held as such.

* We do not indulge in bashing of the betrayed spouse, nor of the married person/other person, nor of men/women in general. At times we may have a need to vent, but, if so, we do this without the use of degrading language or nicknames and in the area designated for it, the threads OP Rant and Rave and Scream with me and MP Rant and Rave and Scream with me.

* If a poster wishes to recommend and/or discuss literature and other media, the place for this is the sub forum Media Resources. Quoting material from other sites or publications must be done in accordance with the US Copyright Act which describes fair use of copyrighted work. The source of a quote must be clearly stated and if the source is to be found on the internet a link must be provided. No quotes may exceed a maximum of 250 words. Posters may not link to or quote material from a commercial site, ie a site which stands to benefit either directly or indirectly from traffic directed to them from True Support.

* We offer emotional support only. Financial and other material support is prohibited.

* No talk of suicide is allowed in the forum. If you or someone close to you is currently in crisis or in an emergency situation, contact your local emergency number or a counselor nearby.

* The moderators make judgment calls and these are based on the tone and/or the content of a post. If you are unclear about why a particular post has been edited or deleted, you are free to address the moderation decision in a thread to the Mod. Team in the section Private Inquiries, but not openly on the forum.

* Registering for more than one user account is not allowed without explicit permission from the Mod Team. Please contact the Mod Team if you for any reason need to change user account or user name.]]> https://www.truesupport.org/forum/showthread.php?tid=11157 Wed, 12 Oct 2016 18:16:49 +0000 Mod Team]]> https://www.truesupport.org/forum/showthread.php?tid=11157 A - affair
AP - affair person

BH - betrayed husband
BOM - betrayed other man
BOW - betrayed other woman
BP - betrayed partner
BS - betrayed spouse
BW - betrayed wife

CC - couples counseling/counselor
CM - committed man (in a committed relationship but not legally married)
CW - committed woman

DD - dear daughter
Dday - discovery day: the day a BS is told or discovers on his/her own about the affair
dM - divorced man
DS - dear son
dW - divorced woman

EA - emotional affair
EMA - extramarital affair
EMR - extramarital relationship

fOM - former OM; anytime you see the lower case "f" in front of one of the acronyms it stands for "former"
FOO - family of origin
fOW - former OW
FWB - friends with benefits

H - husband
HOW - happy other woman

IC - individual counseling/counselor
IMHO - in my humble opinion
IMO - in my opinion

KISA - knight in shining armour

LC - limited or low contact; a decision has been made to limit the contact between the participants in the EMR, usually by the OP due to being dissatisfied with the relationship being an EMR or the MP deciding to work on the marriage
LDR - long-distance relationship: a romantic relationship between two people who live far apart and so are unable to meet on a frequent basis (Oxford Dictionaries)

MC - marriage counseling/counselor
MM - married man
MMtH - married man turned husband
MOM, MOW - married other man, married other woman. These are people who are married and in an affair with someone who is also married.
MW - married woman
MWtW - married woman turned wife
MP - married person

NC - no contact: an extended (6 months or more) or permanent break with the purpose being to cease contact in the relationship

OM - other man
OP - This can have three meanings: other person, original poster (the person who started the thread), or original post (the first post in the thread)
OW - other woman

PA - physical affair
PM - private message

R - relationship
rMP - reformed married person
rOM - reformed other man
rOW - reformed other woman: an OW who compromised her morals through the A, who feels deep remorse for her actions, who swears never again to engage in such things, and who advocates other OWs to abandon their As on principle (explanation courtesy of OWoman)

SG - single guy
sMM - separated married man
sMW - separated married woman
stbxH - soon to be ex husband
stbxW - soon to be ex wife

T/J - threadjack (going off topic in somebody else's or even in your own thread)
TLC - tender loving care
TL;DR - too long; didn't read
TMI - too much information

W - wife

xH - ex husband
xW - ex wife]]> A - affair
AP - affair person

BH - betrayed husband
BOM - betrayed other man
BOW - betrayed other woman
BP - betrayed partner
BS - betrayed spouse
BW - betrayed wife

CC - couples counseling/counselor
CM - committed man (in a committed relationship but not legally married)
CW - committed woman

DD - dear daughter
Dday - discovery day: the day a BS is told or discovers on his/her own about the affair
dM - divorced man
DS - dear son
dW - divorced woman

EA - emotional affair
EMA - extramarital affair
EMR - extramarital relationship

fOM - former OM; anytime you see the lower case "f" in front of one of the acronyms it stands for "former"
FOO - family of origin
fOW - former OW
FWB - friends with benefits

H - husband
HOW - happy other woman

IC - individual counseling/counselor
IMHO - in my humble opinion
IMO - in my opinion

KISA - knight in shining armour

LC - limited or low contact; a decision has been made to limit the contact between the participants in the EMR, usually by the OP due to being dissatisfied with the relationship being an EMR or the MP deciding to work on the marriage
LDR - long-distance relationship: a romantic relationship between two people who live far apart and so are unable to meet on a frequent basis (Oxford Dictionaries)

MC - marriage counseling/counselor
MM - married man
MMtH - married man turned husband
MOM, MOW - married other man, married other woman. These are people who are married and in an affair with someone who is also married.
MW - married woman
MWtW - married woman turned wife
MP - married person

NC - no contact: an extended (6 months or more) or permanent break with the purpose being to cease contact in the relationship

OM - other man
OP - This can have three meanings: other person, original poster (the person who started the thread), or original post (the first post in the thread)
OW - other woman

PA - physical affair
PM - private message

R - relationship
rMP - reformed married person
rOM - reformed other man
rOW - reformed other woman: an OW who compromised her morals through the A, who feels deep remorse for her actions, who swears never again to engage in such things, and who advocates other OWs to abandon their As on principle (explanation courtesy of OWoman)

SG - single guy
sMM - separated married man
sMW - separated married woman
stbxH - soon to be ex husband
stbxW - soon to be ex wife

T/J - threadjack (going off topic in somebody else's or even in your own thread)
TLC - tender loving care
TL;DR - too long; didn't read
TMI - too much information

W - wife

xH - ex husband
xW - ex wife]]> https://www.truesupport.org/forum/showthread.php?tid=11130 Mon, 12 Sep 2016 16:12:58 +0000 Jen_admin]]> https://www.truesupport.org/forum/showthread.php?tid=11130
Just post the acronym TL;DR ahead of your summary to indicate where posters who just want to read the short version should start reading.

Like this:

LONG VERSION
TL;DR: SHORT VERSION]]>
Just post the acronym TL;DR ahead of your summary to indicate where posters who just want to read the short version should start reading.

Like this:

LONG VERSION
TL;DR: SHORT VERSION]]> https://www.truesupport.org/forum/showthread.php?tid=11131 Wed, 23 Mar 2016 14:49:36 +0000 Mod Team]]> https://www.truesupport.org/forum/showthread.php?tid=11131

What do our Guidelines say?

* Posters may not link to or quote material from a commercial site, ie a site which stands to benefit either directly or indirectly from traffic directed to them from True Support.


What does this mean?

Below is what the Mod Team goes by when determining whether a post or a link is breaching the Guidelines:

External links must be non-commercial, provide empirical data relevant to the discussion, and preferably be sponsored by an accredited educational institution or link to a peer-reviewed publication.

As stated in the Guidelines, "a commercial site" is considered any site which stands to benefit either directly or indirectly from traffic directed to them from True Support. Traffic in itself is beneficial to a site even when there is no commerce going on on the site. Obviously, True Support wants its readers to keep reading on TS and not be directed to other sites.

Posting sufficient information which enables posters to navigate to a commercial site even when an actual link is not provided is considered equal to providing an external link.


But what about the section Media Resources? Can I share a link there?

Our Guidelines state:

* If a poster wishes to recommend and/or discuss literature and other media, the place for this is the sub-forum Media Resources.

Recommending/discussing books, movies and songs concerning EMRs is allowed in this section. To facilitate members sharing songs/movies that speak to them, the sharing of such links to YouTube is permitted.


If I'm not allowed to share an external link, how am I able to share something I found helpful without breaking the Guidelines?

We understand there are a lot of cool, inspirational things said on the internet, things our members might want to share with each other. TS is however not the place for this. Our purpose is to support people in EMRs by sharing our own experience and thoughts. The content of TS should be exactly that: content specific and exclusive for TS, sharing what you have learned about yourself and your self development rather than explicitly linking to or quoting directly something you've seen or read on the internet.]]>

What do our Guidelines say?

* Posters may not link to or quote material from a commercial site, ie a site which stands to benefit either directly or indirectly from traffic directed to them from True Support.


What does this mean?

Below is what the Mod Team goes by when determining whether a post or a link is breaching the Guidelines:

External links must be non-commercial, provide empirical data relevant to the discussion, and preferably be sponsored by an accredited educational institution or link to a peer-reviewed publication.

As stated in the Guidelines, "a commercial site" is considered any site which stands to benefit either directly or indirectly from traffic directed to them from True Support. Traffic in itself is beneficial to a site even when there is no commerce going on on the site. Obviously, True Support wants its readers to keep reading on TS and not be directed to other sites.

Posting sufficient information which enables posters to navigate to a commercial site even when an actual link is not provided is considered equal to providing an external link.


But what about the section Media Resources? Can I share a link there?

Our Guidelines state:

* If a poster wishes to recommend and/or discuss literature and other media, the place for this is the sub-forum Media Resources.

Recommending/discussing books, movies and songs concerning EMRs is allowed in this section. To facilitate members sharing songs/movies that speak to them, the sharing of such links to YouTube is permitted.


If I'm not allowed to share an external link, how am I able to share something I found helpful without breaking the Guidelines?

We understand there are a lot of cool, inspirational things said on the internet, things our members might want to share with each other. TS is however not the place for this. Our purpose is to support people in EMRs by sharing our own experience and thoughts. The content of TS should be exactly that: content specific and exclusive for TS, sharing what you have learned about yourself and your self development rather than explicitly linking to or quoting directly something you've seen or read on the internet.]]> https://www.truesupport.org/forum/showthread.php?tid=11132 Sat, 07 Nov 2015 13:12:43 +0000 Mod Team]]> https://www.truesupport.org/forum/showthread.php?tid=11132
The Mod Team is there to ensure to the best of its ability that the tone and the feel of True Support is of a non-judgmental nature. We need your help in this. Please press the Report button available in all posts if there is a post or a thread you feel needs our attention. You might, for example, feel you or someone else is being treated in a judgmental manner, or that a thread is straying off-topic and you are uncomfortable with where the discussion is going - report it and we will take a look at it. The reports are visible to the Mod Team only.

Should you wish to contact the Mod Team, you can do so by using the Private Inquiries option. This is a sub-section of the "Questions and Suggestions" section. All posts made in "Private Inquiries" can only be read by the Mod Team and the original poster. Don't hesitate to contact us, we are here for you.]]>
The Mod Team is there to ensure to the best of its ability that the tone and the feel of True Support is of a non-judgmental nature. We need your help in this. Please press the Report button available in all posts if there is a post or a thread you feel needs our attention. You might, for example, feel you or someone else is being treated in a judgmental manner, or that a thread is straying off-topic and you are uncomfortable with where the discussion is going - report it and we will take a look at it. The reports are visible to the Mod Team only.

Should you wish to contact the Mod Team, you can do so by using the Private Inquiries option. This is a sub-section of the "Questions and Suggestions" section. All posts made in "Private Inquiries" can only be read by the Mod Team and the original poster. Don't hesitate to contact us, we are here for you.]]> https://www.truesupport.org/forum/showthread.php?tid=11135 Mon, 02 Nov 2015 18:31:23 +0000 Mod Team]]> https://www.truesupport.org/forum/showthread.php?tid=11135
So, whilst we understand that some posts or topics can be very difficult subject matter for some, with a high 'trigger' effect, we would urge all members who feel they wish to post/reply on such threads to remember our basic tenet here at TS. Namely, that we are a support forum for ALL parties involved in an EMR and we support our members from where THEY are and not where we feel they *should* be.

Thus, we would remind all members that if you feel you cannot stay on topic or you feel triggered by the subject matter, if you feel you can't be supportive or have nothing much to add, then don't post on the thread.

Remember that the purpose and intention of True Support is to be a place for self-discovery, for sharing our experiences, for working on our own process of evolving on our path through life. Let's leave space for everyone on our forum to discover their own truths rather than try selling them ours.

No-one comes here to be judged.]]>
So, whilst we understand that some posts or topics can be very difficult subject matter for some, with a high 'trigger' effect, we would urge all members who feel they wish to post/reply on such threads to remember our basic tenet here at TS. Namely, that we are a support forum for ALL parties involved in an EMR and we support our members from where THEY are and not where we feel they *should* be.

Thus, we would remind all members that if you feel you cannot stay on topic or you feel triggered by the subject matter, if you feel you can't be supportive or have nothing much to add, then don't post on the thread.

Remember that the purpose and intention of True Support is to be a place for self-discovery, for sharing our experiences, for working on our own process of evolving on our path through life. Let's leave space for everyone on our forum to discover their own truths rather than try selling them ours.

No-one comes here to be judged.]]> https://www.truesupport.org/forum/showthread.php?tid=11133 Thu, 11 Dec 2014 18:56:43 +0000 Mod Team]]> https://www.truesupport.org/forum/showthread.php?tid=11133 this page to help cover the costs of hosting and maintenance.

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We thank you very much for your help in maintaining this forum as a place of true support.

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The Mod Team]]> this page to help cover the costs of hosting and maintenance.

Being a forum run entirely by volunteers, you can be assured that all donations go directly toward funding operational costs, which are a recurring expense. A small donation of $5 or $10 goes a long way.

Keep in mind that any donations are on a purely voluntary basis. They do not confer any special privileges or treatment.

Payments will be processed by PayPal and will appear as "PAYPAL*TS ORG" on your credit card statement. You will receive a receipt from PayPal at the email address you specify.

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We thank you very much for your help in maintaining this forum as a place of true support.

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We understand why you may wish to communicate off the boards. It is a natural inclination to want to have contact with other members here who may resonate with you for whatever reason.

However...
We cannot guarantee that everyone here is who they present themselves as being and not all our members post publicly. Many just read. We cannot guarantee that everyone has your best interests at heart. Be pro-active in your own privacy/security and do not try to circumnavigate the Moderation Team's decisions. We are NOT making them to irritate you or be mean. We make them with YOUR best interests at heart. We will delete any email addresses posted on the boards.

Just as importantly, this is a support forum, meant for ALL its members. It exists by virtue of the fact that its members post about their problems, questions and feelings ON the forum. If we all pick and choose what we post and form special friendships off the forum and use that as our outlet, we deprive other members and ourselves of valuable feedback. If enough members do that, there IS no forum.

We strive to keep True Support a place of inclusion for all, a place of kindness and support for all.]]>
We understand why you may wish to communicate off the boards. It is a natural inclination to want to have contact with other members here who may resonate with you for whatever reason.

However...
We cannot guarantee that everyone here is who they present themselves as being and not all our members post publicly. Many just read. We cannot guarantee that everyone has your best interests at heart. Be pro-active in your own privacy/security and do not try to circumnavigate the Moderation Team's decisions. We are NOT making them to irritate you or be mean. We make them with YOUR best interests at heart. We will delete any email addresses posted on the boards.

Just as importantly, this is a support forum, meant for ALL its members. It exists by virtue of the fact that its members post about their problems, questions and feelings ON the forum. If we all pick and choose what we post and form special friendships off the forum and use that as our outlet, we deprive other members and ourselves of valuable feedback. If enough members do that, there IS no forum.

We strive to keep True Support a place of inclusion for all, a place of kindness and support for all.]]> https://www.truesupport.org/forum/showthread.php?tid=2939 Sun, 12 Jan 2014 20:26:33 +0000 Moderation Team]]> https://www.truesupport.org/forum/showthread.php?tid=2939
If you've been having a hard time keeping track of where you left off reading in a thread, this is your solution!]]>
If you've been having a hard time keeping track of where you left off reading in a thread, this is your solution!]]>