08-19-2018, 06:47 AM
"He will never leave". I was told this by a seasoned member of another EMR forum. Having read my story she was convinced my MM would never ever leave his wife. I crashed, had to call my MM to pick me up because I was so devastated. I needed that hope, that sliver of hope, to be content being in an EMR. He didn't actually have to leave, I just needed the hope, I needed to see him come closer to me every day. And he did.
In the beginning of our relationship I filled an empty spot in his life and his mind. I fulfilled a need that hadn't been fulfilled. There was room for me and for us without taking anything from his marriage. As time went on, our bond grew, our relationship took more and more space in his life and his emotions, until one day there was nowhere to go without starting to take away from his marriage and his wife. Our bond continued to grow stronger and stronger until there was no more room for our relationship to expand without revealing its existence to the people in his life. I had had it, I was done being the OW. Without our relationship growing stronger I could not stay in the relationship, neither could I go as I loved him. We went LC (low contact).
Simultaneously, my MM had a crisis of his own. He couldn't live with the duplicity any longer. He felt his identity threatened, he needed to stand up for who he was, who he had become. So we made an agreement that he would wait until an opportunity presented itself and then he would tell his wife about us.
He did leave. We're married today. I'm not saying this will happen to you, but if you are in the EMR because you think it's worth it today, you may get a pleasant surprise in the end.
In the beginning of our relationship I filled an empty spot in his life and his mind. I fulfilled a need that hadn't been fulfilled. There was room for me and for us without taking anything from his marriage. As time went on, our bond grew, our relationship took more and more space in his life and his emotions, until one day there was nowhere to go without starting to take away from his marriage and his wife. Our bond continued to grow stronger and stronger until there was no more room for our relationship to expand without revealing its existence to the people in his life. I had had it, I was done being the OW. Without our relationship growing stronger I could not stay in the relationship, neither could I go as I loved him. We went LC (low contact).
Simultaneously, my MM had a crisis of his own. He couldn't live with the duplicity any longer. He felt his identity threatened, he needed to stand up for who he was, who he had become. So we made an agreement that he would wait until an opportunity presented itself and then he would tell his wife about us.
He did leave. We're married today. I'm not saying this will happen to you, but if you are in the EMR because you think it's worth it today, you may get a pleasant surprise in the end.
Lance 
Gwen
Gwen
