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(04-23-2023, 11:32 AM)Bluelobster9138 Wrote: I know your pain. Mine became physical. I've lost so much work because I've made myself sick. I go back tomorrow for the first time since mine ended. I'm scared.
Don't you ever give up on a better you. Please believe me though the love may be there for you both, it doesn't mean you'll suffer forever. I to struggled! With alcohol and crying many nights! Eventually the wounds become scars and we are only reminded when we go looking!
Stay strong as your amazing life awaits you! We are here for you
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(04-23-2023, 11:32 AM)Bluelobster9138 Wrote: I know your pain. Mine became physical. I've lost so much work because I've made myself sick. I go back tomorrow for the first time since mine ended. I'm scared.
Fear not!
He or she will likely be back in a few months. This is what many of us have experienced.
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(04-23-2023, 02:18 PM)Harlow Wrote: Fear not!
He or she will likely be back in a few months. This is what many of us have experienced.
This. Couldn't agree more with Harlow
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(04-23-2023, 02:42 PM)Foreternity Wrote: This. Couldn't agree more with Harlow
I agree. But two things I have working for me:
We had the DDay conversation more than once, throwing out every scenario and how might it play out. He knew two things about me:
if I hear from his family, I will assume he's dead.
If it's going to end, he will have to be the one to do it and it will have to come from someone who makes me know it's final.
He did what I told him to. I think he's gone.
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(04-23-2023, 02:49 PM)Bluelobster9138 Wrote: I agree. But two things I have working for me:
We had the DDay conversation more than once, throwing out every scenario and how might it play out. He knew two things about me:
if I hear from his family, I will assume he's dead.
If it's going to end, he will have to be the one to do it and it will have to come from someone who makes me know it's final.
He did what I told him to. I think he's gone.
I see.. I'm sorry to hear that especially with what your going through. It could always change as it's never easy to fix your feelings also just because a DDay
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(04-23-2023, 02:49 PM)Bluelobster9138 Wrote: I agree. But two things I have working for me:
We had the DDay conversation more than once, throwing out every scenario and how might it play out. He knew two things about me:
if I hear from his family, I will assume he's dead.
If it's going to end, he will have to be the one to do it and it will have to come from someone who makes me know it's final.
He did what I told him to. I think he's gone.
I don’t understand this logic. Why have the standard that if you hear from his family you should assume he’s dead? And how can you say you know it’s final?
Two things I have learned about love within the EMR construct are that you cannot promise love and you cannot promise that an ending will stick.
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(04-23-2023, 05:30 PM)Harlow Wrote: I don’t understand this logic. Why have the standard that if you hear from his family you should assume he’s dead? And how can you say you know it’s final?
Two things I have learned about love within the EMR construct are that you cannot promise love and you cannot promise that an ending will stick.
Just like any relationship it's only over when it's over. I trust your words . Doesn't mean he will love his BW and life to make his life any better
