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I don't really know where to start. My 7 year affair ended in an explosion a week ago. I have no one else to talk to about this.
I became friends with and worked with both of them initially. We all three hung out. He and I did have a more common bond, but it slowly escalated in text and phone. Long story short, the two of them decided to have an open relationship. I was his first. It was casual for a while. She noticed us getting closer and asked that we stop. We didn't.
Things escalated, as they do. I recently received a phone call from his brother. The first and last. He introduced himself and advised me the affair was over and I should consider him dead.
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I have been alone and devastated for a week. I don't have much of a support system anyway and this has been all mine. I have to return to work tomorrow. Some people knew. I don't know what I'll say or do if anyone asks.
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(04-23-2023, 11:45 AM)Bluelobster9138 Wrote: I have been alone and devastated for a week. I don't have much of a support system anyway and this has been all mine. I have to return to work tomorrow. Some people knew. I don't know what I'll say or do if anyone asks.
I am so sorry you are going through this. Can you take a day off tomorrow just to let things settle and so you can focus on yourself and processing this pain?
It does seem terribly unfair to open the marriage and then close it.
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That must be so hard on you. We will support you. Start a thread in Base Camp. You are among friends who all have experience of EMRs and the strong emotions within them.
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I literally just took a week off, some with no pay.
I agree it's unfair. The whole shebang.
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(04-23-2023, 11:57 AM)Bluelobster9138 Wrote: I literally just took a week off, some with no pay.
I agree it's unfair. The whole shebang.
If she agreed for him to have an OR, what is the issue to a degree? Especially 7 years
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(04-23-2023, 11:14 AM)Bluelobster9138 Wrote: I don't really know where to start. My 7 year affair ended in an explosion a week ago. I have no one else to talk to about this.
I became friends with and worked with both of them initially. We all three hung out. He and I did have a more common bond, but it slowly escalated in text and phone. Long story short, the two of them decided to have an open relationship. I was his first. It was casual for a while. She noticed us getting closer and asked that we stop. We didn't.
Things escalated, as they do. I recently received a phone call from his brother. The first and last. He introduced himself and advised me the affair was over and I should consider him dead.
Tell his brother to go to hell, and until you hear it from YOUR boyfriend personally your not going anywhere
How do you know they didnt tell him some BS too?
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Bluelobster, how are you doing?
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