04-28-2013, 05:58 AM
It starts innocently enough, in most cases. A spark, a warm friendship, a real connection. Sometimes it's a "blast from the past" that sweeps you off your feet, takes you back to a time when possibilities beckoned and the greyness of unfulfilling jobs, nagging, bills and demanding kids was a distant mirage.
Either way, one day you realise that somewhere a line was crossed and you've entered into a relationship that your spouse would likely consider inappropriate, if you had the guts to tell them about it. But you can't. They'd be hurt if they knew, and you still care for them and don't want to hurt them in that way. But yet, you can't walk away from the new relationship either. It's keeping you going, helping you find yourself again, helping you look forward to each day.
It's tough. You feel bad. You hate lying, but you know that telling the full truth will bring more pain, and you don't know what to do. And there isn't really anyone you can speak to - they will tell you what you already know, that it's wrong, that you're hurting the one you promised to love, that you're leading a double life. How could they understand, they haven't had to deal with this...
We have. We know how tough it can be. We know that sometimes the "answers" look easy but are far harder than any outsider could guess. And so we offer a space to share, without bullying, without meanness and without telling you what to feel or think, but simply a space to share and learn from our own experiences and those of others, as we all find our own answers.
Welcome to our Forum!
Either way, one day you realise that somewhere a line was crossed and you've entered into a relationship that your spouse would likely consider inappropriate, if you had the guts to tell them about it. But you can't. They'd be hurt if they knew, and you still care for them and don't want to hurt them in that way. But yet, you can't walk away from the new relationship either. It's keeping you going, helping you find yourself again, helping you look forward to each day.
It's tough. You feel bad. You hate lying, but you know that telling the full truth will bring more pain, and you don't know what to do. And there isn't really anyone you can speak to - they will tell you what you already know, that it's wrong, that you're hurting the one you promised to love, that you're leading a double life. How could they understand, they haven't had to deal with this...
We have. We know how tough it can be. We know that sometimes the "answers" look easy but are far harder than any outsider could guess. And so we offer a space to share, without bullying, without meanness and without telling you what to feel or think, but simply a space to share and learn from our own experiences and those of others, as we all find our own answers.
Welcome to our Forum!
