05-07-2025, 12:19 PM
Is it wrong to care for a spouse but not be in love. For complicated reasons still caretaking while falling in love with another person.
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05-07-2025, 10:12 PM
Absolutely not, The idea you can only love one person is BS.
If you have two children you love them both, if you have siblings you love them. There are many different types of love.
Funny how a fantasy can end up as a tragedy
05-08-2025, 07:54 PM
(05-07-2025, 10:12 PM)JustHer Wrote: Absolutely not, The idea you can only love one person is BS. I feel the same way, it's just the judgement that would come from family and friends. So now I find myself in a situation where the person I'm in love with is leaving me because she can't handle the situations any more. We are still in love with each other but she changed. 
05-09-2025, 02:06 PM
(05-08-2025, 07:54 PM)dezignr Wrote: I feel the same way, it's just the judgement that would come from family and friends. So now I find myself in a situation where the person I'm in love with is leaving me because she can't handle the situations any more. We are still in love with each other but she changed. Who changed, the W or the OW?
No regrets
05-11-2025, 07:56 PM
OW. She wants a more normal trad relationship and I can't give it to her right now.
06-02-2025, 10:16 PM
06-06-2025, 01:24 PM
It's not wrong, if that's how it is, that's how it is.
I'm sorry that OW is stepping away but, if they want a more trad relationship and you cannot offer that, then they are right to do so as otherwise they could be in for a while load of heartache for years to come. Loving someone sometimes means letting them go and fly free. You cannot give them what they want so it's only fair to let them go, no matter how much you love them. I really do understand how very painful this might be for you though. In the meantime, you could have a really open conversation with your spouse expressing your concerns about your relationship and seeing if you can together improve things? If not, then maybe it's time to move on. You mention judgement from family and friends, and I really do understand that, but I like to think that if people genuinely love you they would want you to be happy. And whilst your spouse might be understandably unhappy initially, maybe they too would be happier in the long run. Life is short yet a marriage in which you are no longer in love with your spouse can be really really long...... If you and your OW are destined to be together, then I am sure that the two of you will find your way back together at some point in the future. I wish you all the very best |
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