Ello!

[mistress_ava_]

Hello everyone you can call me Ava, it’s my Trix name anyway so it works. I have been the other woman for two years now. I was in a relationship of seventeen years until now. I left because my married man showed all of the things that I was missing, that I didn’t even know I needed or wanted. I actually met him thirteen years ago, and have had a crush on him ever since. I did meet him at work but we don’t work together. Our situation is very different. His wife told him she didn’t love him anymore quite a few a years ago, and stopped being intimate a few years before that. She told she was moving out a couple of years ago, but quickly figured she couldn’t afford to do so. Or how good she had it where she was….who knows. He lives his life and so does she. Like I said, very different. I didn’t know he was married when we “met”. I have never been with a married man in my life, and was raised to believe it very wrong to do so. Which is why I can’t understand why I don’t feel bad about what I have done. I just enjoy us.

[Sandy]

Welcome! Well, I hope this situation means it's easier for you...

[mistress_ava_]

Welcome! Well, I hope this situation means it's easier for you...

I wouldn’t say it’s easy, but not having the guilt helps. I do still get lonely and always wonder when we will be over. I know that I can’t keep him. I don’t have any delusions of us riding off into the sunset together. I knew when this started that it was only temporary. He is staying for his son and I can respect that. He is an amazing father and I would never come between them, no matter how much I love him. I made my choice to leave my ex so I could figure out who I am and be happy, whatever that means. He has to make his choices as well. If he chooses to leave in the future I will be there. I will not try to pressure him or have unrealistic expectations. He was pretty emotionally broken when we started. I just try to give him stable love and support, because that’s what he needs and deserves.

[rozay]

Hello everyone you can call me Ava, it’s my Trix name anyway so it works. I have been the other woman for two years now. I was in a relationship of seventeen years until now. I left because my married man showed all of the things that I was missing, that I didn’t even know I needed or wanted. I actually met him thirteen years ago, and have had a crush on him ever since. I did meet him at work but we don’t work together. Our situation is very different. His wife told him she didn’t love him anymore quite a few a years ago, and stopped being intimate a few years before that. She told she was moving out a couple of years ago, but quickly figured she couldn’t afford to do so. Or how good she had it where she was….who knows. He lives his life and so does she. Like I said, very different. I didn’t know he was married when we “met”. I have never been with a married man in my life, and was raised to believe it very wrong to do so. Which is why I can’t understand why I don’t feel bad about what I have done. I just enjoy us.

Ava, welcome. I was always raised to believe EMRs, etc. are very wrong. In my experience, I had to do some reflecting myself because I, too, did not feel as guilty "as I should." It's hard to feel that way when everything feels so right. But the truth is, you have your own experiences and beliefs, just as everyone else does. Just because they may or may not align with the common "social standards" does not mean you shouldn't have the experience. If your experience is fulfilling and you both are enjoying your dynamic, let it be that way. We are grown adults. We can make our own decisions. It seems things have been off in his home life with W for a while... yet, he is staying for his son. I commend him for staying to keep the family together, but if they are unhappy with one another, the wife has shared she has no love for him anymore, then I'm glad he is able to have someone like you in his life. 

Welcome again. i hope to hear more about your story soon.