04-01-2026, 05:29 PM
I’ve been married for almost 30 years to the same man and began a long-distance affair with someone from my past about two years ago. We live on opposite coasts but have managed to spend 3-5 days together 4-5 times/year. He has a partner that he hasn’t slept with or lived with in 4+ years. They’re now more like family than romantic partners but as an only child with no surviving family, he’s thoroughly immeshed in her family and thus far been too afraid to have a conversation about “breaking up”. I have safety and security and companionship in my husband but would leave him to follow this new path with the other guy who makes me feel like the person I’ve always wanted to be and inspires me to do things and learn things I’ve always wanted to.
