06-06-2026, 11:03 AM
This is my intro post: I've known my AP for 4+ years now and we've been involved for about a year now. We also work together which makes it extra complicated. We love each other dearly. He has 2 teenage kids and this is the main reason he hasn't left yet. He hasn't been happy for many years, in fact neither of them have been especially happy - but she won't let him go. They don't have sex and he's not in love with her.
He told her last year that he wants to leave but she refuses to agree to doing so amicably, and he's worried about what impact a non-amicable separation would do to his kids. We haven't had sex as that is the one boundary we committed to upholding. I have also convinced him to go through marriage counselling with his wife to see if there is any hope of them fixing their relationship. They're currently going through this process and we'll see what happens. We've put a 3-month time limit on this and we'll see where we're at after this.
I never thought I'd find myself in this situation, in a million years. I only have a couple of very close girlfriends that I can talk to, and they are trying to be supportive but they don't love any of this - and I don't blame them at all.
He told her last year that he wants to leave but she refuses to agree to doing so amicably, and he's worried about what impact a non-amicable separation would do to his kids. We haven't had sex as that is the one boundary we committed to upholding. I have also convinced him to go through marriage counselling with his wife to see if there is any hope of them fixing their relationship. They're currently going through this process and we'll see what happens. We've put a 3-month time limit on this and we'll see where we're at after this.
I never thought I'd find myself in this situation, in a million years. I only have a couple of very close girlfriends that I can talk to, and they are trying to be supportive but they don't love any of this - and I don't blame them at all.
