06-06-2025, 11:59 PM
Hello, I’m new here.
I’m divorced, no children, living alone with an aging parent. I’m also the other woman in a relationship with a married man that lives 2,000 miles away.
He was my high school sweetheart. I broke up with him after a 3-year relationship. He had hurt me and pushed me away and I eventually closed the door on the relationship and moved on. Throughout the years, I thought about him fondly every now and then but never would have reached out. After all, he was the one that rejected me.
Fast forward to last year, he reached out to me (30 years later) on social media and I replied. We agree to meet up - I was shocked that he’d travel so far just to see me.
He’s married, with kids and in a self described dead marriage. He said that the marriage is over, they just haven’t divorced. They live like roommates and keep up appearances to maintain stability for the kids.
It’s been 9 months, and we’ve met up several times. Each visit has been amazing. We connect on an emotional as well as a physical level. And yet, our in-person time together is brief and outside of our visits, I’m a secret. I feel deep love but I struggle having to wait while he navigates his complicated situation. It’s quite likely that he won’t move towards separation/divorce until his kids are 18 (5-6 years from now).
So many mixed feelings - in a relationship that’s “complicated”.
I’m divorced, no children, living alone with an aging parent. I’m also the other woman in a relationship with a married man that lives 2,000 miles away.
He was my high school sweetheart. I broke up with him after a 3-year relationship. He had hurt me and pushed me away and I eventually closed the door on the relationship and moved on. Throughout the years, I thought about him fondly every now and then but never would have reached out. After all, he was the one that rejected me.
Fast forward to last year, he reached out to me (30 years later) on social media and I replied. We agree to meet up - I was shocked that he’d travel so far just to see me.
He’s married, with kids and in a self described dead marriage. He said that the marriage is over, they just haven’t divorced. They live like roommates and keep up appearances to maintain stability for the kids.
It’s been 9 months, and we’ve met up several times. Each visit has been amazing. We connect on an emotional as well as a physical level. And yet, our in-person time together is brief and outside of our visits, I’m a secret. I feel deep love but I struggle having to wait while he navigates his complicated situation. It’s quite likely that he won’t move towards separation/divorce until his kids are 18 (5-6 years from now).
So many mixed feelings - in a relationship that’s “complicated”.
