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[Catherine]

Hi my name is Catherine.  I’ve been involved with my MM for two years now. We’re both happy in our marriages and our relationship is mostly meant to provide the kind of sexual passion that fades in a long term marriage. Before him, I had a 2 year relationship with another MM that was abusive and I struggled to end it. 
I’ve been married to my husband for 27 years, he knows that I’m not capable of being monogamous for the past four years - he mostly accepts and doesn’t want to know too much details. We have a deep companionship and from my part I don’t feel the need to hide, we regularly discuss the situation. I think we both agree that having my sexuality kept alive in this way brings also us some needed spark and energy, however we also feel this is not an ideal way but without it we might struggle perhaps even more in a different way.
We married young, so my lifetime experience with men boils down to my marriage and these two MM.

I joined here mostly because sometimes I have conflicting feelings about being involved in these somewhat unconventional relationships to both my MM and to my husband (and some fear about the abusive ex MM lurking in the past). I get comfort knowing that there are other women with similar issues that arise from being involved with a MM, especially since the first relationship turned toxic and sometimes I fear he will find a way again to manipulate me. He does still try every now and then. So I need to keep reading the experiences of others in similar situations.

[Virginia]

Hi my name is Catherine.  I’ve been involved with my MM for two years now. We’re both happy in our marriages and our relationship is mostly meant to provide the kind of sexual passion that fades in a long term marriage. Before him, I had a 2 year relationship with another MM that was abusive and I struggled to end it. 
I’ve been married to my husband for 27 years, he knows that I’m not capable of being monogamous for the past four years - he mostly accepts and doesn’t want to know too much details. We have a deep companionship and from my part I don’t feel the need to hide, we regularly discuss the situation. I think we both agree that having my sexuality kept alive in this way brings also us some needed spark and energy, however we also feel this is not an ideal way but without it we might struggle perhaps even more in a different way.
We married young, so my lifetime experience with men boils down to my marriage and these two MM.

I joined here mostly because sometimes I have conflicting feelings about being involved in these somewhat unconventional relationships to both my MM and to my husband (and some fear about the abusive ex MM lurking in the past). I get comfort knowing that there are other women with similar issues that arise from being involved with a MM, especially since the first relationship turned toxic and sometimes I fear he will find a way again to manipulate me. He does still try every now and then. So I need to keep reading the experiences of others in similar situations.

Glad you ended the abusive, toxic R in the past. Can you block that guy? And welcome to the site!

[lost2019]

I’ve been with MM for near 8 years. It’s been a stressful time for me at times balanced by some of the most incredible experiences.
We spend time together nearly every day. 
He is M and I am D. I was M when we met but D not long after. 
It was never meant to be something we felll in love in.
He’s had years of loyalty to the commitment he made but he has fallen out of love with BW
At first I didn’t believe him or his love for me
As years have gone on I see his love for me in unquestionable 
We both have children and this makes things complex 
Our story is changing again.

[Brigit]

I’ve been with MM for near 8 years. It’s been a stressful time for me at times balanced by some of the most incredible experiences.
We spend time together nearly every day. 
He is M and I am D. I was M when we met but D not long after. 
It was never meant to be something we felll in love in.
He’s had years of loyalty to the commitment he made but he has fallen out of love with BW
At first I didn’t believe him or his love for me
As years have gone on I see his love for me in unquestionable 
We both have children and this makes things complex 
Our story is changing again.

Welcome! I think you will find a number of people in a very similar situation here. I look forward to hearing more of your story.

[Catherine]

Glad you ended the abusive, toxic R in the past. Can you block that guy? And welcome to the site!

Thanks! I don’t think that blocking helps as it would cause my mind to be even more focused on him in some ways. And obviously there is always a way for him to reach me in some way. Nowadays I very rarely even think of him anymore and my current relationship is very satisfying and going strong, so that and time without contact and without thinking of him should do away with his ability to manipulate me anymore.

It was truly eye-opening to realize that there are people who derive pleasure and validation for their ego through playing with the entire mind and passion of another person.

The silver lining is I found my current MM and he has been such a source of pleasure and joy!

[Virginia]

Thanks! I don’t think that blocking helps as it would cause my mind to be even more focused on him in some ways. And obviously there is always a way for him to reach me in some way. Nowadays I very rarely even think of him anymore and my current relationship is very satisfying and going strong, so that and time without contact and without thinking of him should do away with his ability to manipulate me anymore.

It was truly eye-opening to realize that there are people who derive pleasure and validation for their ego through playing with the entire mind and passion of another person.

The silver lining is I found my current MM and he has been such a source of pleasure and joy!

Blocking was just an idea, of course it's always up to you. It's great things are better for you nowadays...